--- title: Why the other things you’ve tried haven’t worked? description: "![](https://www.makingmoves.net/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/18518352_1633581763338507_1080953287856955549_o.jpg) ### **You may have tried lots of things to come out of your shell or to get over feeling inhibited, shy or self-conscious.** - You’ve read all the books about it? - Been to workshops that promised to change…" url: "https://www.makingmoves.net/FAQ/why-other-courses-havent-worked/" updated: "2026-10-12" category: Getting started --- # Why the other things you’ve tried haven’t worked? ![](https://www.makingmoves.net/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/18518352_1633581763338507_1080953287856955549_o.jpg) ### **You may have tried lots of things to come out of your shell or to get over feeling inhibited, shy or self-conscious.** - You’ve read all the books about it? - Been to workshops that promised to change your life? - Done assertiveness, presentation or confidence-building courses? - Learned countless success techniques? - Or, have been going round and round in circles in therapy talking about your issues? **But you’re still stuck in your shell.** ### **It’s true. It’s not so easy to break out of your shell if you’ve been there a long time** It’s human nature to **fall back into old habits.** ### **However, there’s a very good reason why most of these approaches haven’t worked:** **They’re head-based** – and you can’t come out of your shell if you’re in your head, sitting on a chair or lying on a couch. **It is simply impossible.** **They’re a technique** – and it takes** a long time** for a technique to become second nature; however hard you work at it. **They’re not designed** **specifically to move** you out of your shell. ![](https://www.makingmoves.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/Cop-Head-Black-Neck-500x300-1.jpg) It’s very difficult to come out of your shell when there's a cop in your head telling you "you're doing it wrong!" ### **Many people struggle with self-consciousness in some form or other** They may describe it as a **lack of self-confidence**, **feeling inhibited**, feeling **stuck**, **confused**, or **depressed**. It may be a sense that life is passing them by and they are **not fulfilling their potential**. ### **Feeling Locked Away** ![](https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/D3Xt_MlOBBMz7icZjwLfxsjy-5pfxY3zW1wcD2O8eRLKkMjypnUb0XuNTBG2_FZQcR0N6s7JLVdK0vKAl7B6Gq14q_N42kUcUNxjweiiR27jdCvM1XqTkwYsksa-B36cQTUFBH4o) It all boils down to the same thing. **Of feeling locked away, boxed in, or trapped within yourself.** **This may be because you are:** - An introvert, like me, and have a tendency to withdraw into yourself. - Reserved, shy, or quiet. - Have had some tough experiences in your life that you’ve never quite got over (sometimes in spite of years of therapy). ### **If you experience any of these issues,** **there is a way out of this** I’ve done it myself, and I’ve helped [**hundreds of people**](https://www.makingmoves.net/testimonials/) like you do the same. ### **What will work?** The Sunflower Effect Courses® work because: They are **designed for you to come out of your shell** at your own pace and in your own way. They will **get you out of your head** so you will start operating from a more intuitive place. Watch the world open up for you in surprising ways as more of the "real you" comes out. They are not a technique but will **shift you at a fundamental level**, so you will find yourself behaving in new and surprising ways without even thinking about it. They are **fun**, and that actually is why they work so well. They won’t break the bank. I offer these courses at **affordable** rates and you can pay by instalments to make paying as painless as possible. ![](https://www.makingmoves.net/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/cropped-ss.108-e1791804739817.png) **The Sunflower Effect**® will enable you to say goodbye to your wallflower existence and become a “Sunflower”.... **Someone who is naturally self-confident.** ### Next Steps Read the **[Sunflower Manifesto](https://www.makingmoves.net/the-sunflower-manifesto/)** to discover the journey we take people on when they join one of the [**Sunflower Effect Courses**](https://www.makingmoves.net/confidence-building-courses-london/)®. It doesn’t matter how inhibited or self-conscious you are. **I have helped people with very severe issues** who believed they would never get over their problems. **And don’t worry if you’ve spent a lot of time and money on other approaches.**Nothing has been wasted. When you join the Sunflower Effect Courses, the previous work you’ve done will enable you to **break out of your shell FASTER.** ![](https://www.makingmoves.net/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/MG_8661s.jpg) Participants at the book launch of “From Wallflower to Sunflower”Finding Freedom **Want to know:** [**How the Sunflower Effect works**](https://www.makingmoves.net/FAQ/sunflower-effect-lasting-confidence/) [**How to get started**](https://www.makingmoves.net/FAQ/how-get-started/) [**Which course is right for you?**](https://www.makingmoves.net/FAQ/which-course/)