An excerpt from From Wallflower to Sunflower: the quiet person’s path to natural self-confidence – Claire Schrader’s new book. The original wallflowers Very sadly a wallflower has become a derogatory term so that no one wants to be named or seen as a wallflower by other people. The term was used in the 19th century to describe a woman who
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How to stop shyness from ruining your life – Chrissy B Show – Sky TV
How to stop shyness from ruining your life Making Moves was on the Chrissy B Show – “How to stop shyness from ruining your life” – SKY TV (channel 203) on the 10th June at 10pm. I was interviewed along with two very brave Making Moves participants by Chrissy B and shared their story of their painful battle with shyness.
Read moreWhy you need to get out of your head?
How to stop the “cop in the head” from getting the better of you Are the cops in your head getting the better of you? By ” cops in the head” I mean the voices in your head that tell you it would be a really bad idea and REALLY UNCOOL if you said or did what you wanted to
Read moreArticle: Is it the Nasty People who get ahead? The power of natural authority.
How to claim you’re natural authority and hold your own against dominant people We’ve seen them in films, on TV, we’ve read about them in books – nasty guys who get to the top and throw their weight about – and make everyone else’s life a misery. They’re the dominant types, the alpha types, the bullies that make a lot
Read moreSpeaking with confidence – how to stop comparing yourself to other people
THE ART OF BEING THE REAL YOU Annabel was one of those powerful, successful women that I believed I could never be like. Every time Annabel stood up to make an announcement about something she was doing, it seemed everyone sat up and listened. Annabel had a natural authority that anything she talked about seemed the right “thing” to be
Read moreFeel the Fear – how to overcome fear without paralysing yourself
Fear is powerful. The fact that fear is not real in most cases, makes it no less powerful. Fear can grip you around the heart, paralyse you, run you into the ground and make all action impossible. Most of the things you fear are inside your head, and produce similar physical sensations as if you were facing a raging bear.
Read moreThe Courage to Speak Out
Article on how to find your voice and be heard loud and clear! “It’s wrong! Someone should say something about it. Everyone can see it’s pure madness!” And your friend turns to you and says, “Maybe you should – since you feel so strongly about it?” And as strongly as to feel about the issue you first instinct is fear
Read moreHow to be creative – even if you think you’re not
Do you feel like this image – as if half of you is not there? (If you can can’t see this image it is of a man who’s face and body is partially invisible). This is the experience of many people and they wonder why they feel uninspired, deadened and not able to enjoy their lives with an overriding sense
Read moreIs living in your head doing you any good?
Or what they should have taught you at school “As I grew up everything started getting grey and dull. I could still remember the amazing intensity of the world I’d lived in as a child, but I thought the dulling of perception, was an inevitable consequence of age.” Keith Johnstone Did you feel like Keith Johnstone – that life lost
Read moreTrue Confidence
What Gifts Lie Hidden Within? An Inspiring Story It takes a lot of courage to go on stage. I remember the first time I did, I was frozen with fear. But what did it take for this Korean boy to go on national television and perform to millions. An enormous amount of courage. And even more so when you learn
Read moreThe real reason why you hide away
Marianne Williamson tells us that, “ our “playing small” does not serve us or the world. She encourages us that in shining our light “we are liberated from our own fear”, and that in doing so we “automatically liberate others”. Sounds easy doesn’t it? But if it was easy to come out of hiding, wouldn’t you have done it long ago?!!!
Read moreShining Your Light – promote yourself with ease
How to Promote Yourself with Ease You’ve got enormous amount of talent – everyone tells you how gifted you are, you’ve got numerous qualifications/letters after your name, you’ve trained in something dear to your heart – but you’re not doing anything with any of them. Or you have an idea to start working for yourself or to go off in
Read moreSuccess through play
What The Most Successful People Do That Most Other People Think is a Waste of Time? How to be Successful Without Becoming an Automation. You might think in order to be really successful you have to be a go-getter, be really hard-nosed and have a ruthless streak that will stop at nothing. Yes, many successful people are like that and
Read moreThe Curse of Emotions – overcoming negative emotions
You were feeling great… and then you get an email or your partner/boss/friend says something that really upsets you. And suddenly you’re on fire! You feel full of justified rage. Even if you know the thing that has upset you is rather trivial, possibly not even true. You don’t quite know where it all came from – all this emotion
Read moreThe Curse of Being Invisible
Or How to be Seen and Heard Without Having to Scream and Shout About It Daniel was a quiet man, a clever man, a caring man – but he felt he was invisible. Daniel was an academic and it often took him days to prepare his beautifully composed and interesting lectures. But when it came to delivering them, his students went to sleep
Read moreLiving life out loud – overcoming fear
Overcoming Fear What Would It Be Like If You Were Living Your Life Out Loud? What would you be doing? You might want to close your eyes and see what images float into your mind. Trust the first one(s) that comes. You might be singing from the rooftops… singing out loud and not caring what you sound like or look
Read moreAnger as positive power
How to Express and Channel Your Anger in Empowering Ways Without Hurting Other People When were you last angry? How did it feel? Did it feel good/powerful to express your anger? Did you feel heard/understood/released? Or did you feel embarrassed by the fact that you were so angry, ashamed that you should have such powerful feelings? Were you afraid of
Read moreHow an introvert can overcome their fear of the spotlight
Overcome performance anxiety as an an introvert – and be seen, valued and recognised for who you are You know you have a special gift. Something you can’t keep to yourself and even if you’re not very clear what “it” is. You know you have to allow this gift to be seen if you’re going to move to the next
Read moreOvercome Obstacles
Overcome Obstacles: Turning Your Obstacles into Power You’ve had enough! You’re not going to put up with it any longer. The situation has been going on for far too long. You’ve made up your mind. You’re going to take action/follow a new path/get out of that rut once and forever! And you do! And for a while, it feels so
Read moreThe Curse of Being Too Nice
Are You Being Too Nice? how to be nice without other people taking advantage of you…. You’ve been pushed way, way beyond your limits, and you know perfectly well that the other person is taking advantage of you. Either because they are in a more powerful position; or because they’ve got away with it before; or because they are just
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