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Stand Up For Yourself

assertiveness course to resolve conflict with people at work and in your personal life

a 12-week assertiveness course

Do you avoid conflict?

  • Because you are a people-pleaser?
  • Because you’re afraid the other person might get upset or angry?
  • Because you afraid of damaging your prospects or important relationships?
  • Because there are certain people that seem to have the knack of getting the better of you?
  • Or, because your attempts to resolve the situation have previously failed?

You may have come a long way in terms of building your confidence

You may have done one or more of my courses and have seen a massive shift in how you express yourself.  

But this is the one area that you consistently struggle with.

Standing up for yourself, your values or what’s most important to you with the challenging people in your life.

You may find them at work or in social situations.

You may live with them, or they may be members of your family.

assertiveness course to resolve conflict with people at work and in your personal life

As a result, you may have come to the conclusion, that it’s the nasty people that get ahead

Because you see them getting away with things; getting their way even though there is no sense to it; getting advantages over everyone else, and in many cases being rewarded for their abusive behaviour with promotion and other advantages!

And someone like you just has to put up with this behaviour from them.

You’d never behave the way they do. You don’t have it in you, or you just couldn’t live with yourself if you behaved like that.

And sometimes it’s not even that they are overtly nasty, you just find it really difficult to express yourself to them.

This is what I used to believe

I saw these people achieving things that I couldn’t, and I gave up any hope that I could excel in this kind of way.

But I was fed up with them undermining me, walking all over me, taking advantage of me, manipulating me, dis-empowering me and generally dominating me.

I was also fed up with feeling angry with myself for giving my power away to them, failing to be assertive once again and feeling bad about myself.

It wasn’t doing anything for my confidence.

assertiveness course to resolve conflict with people at work and in your personal life with Claire Schrader
I was fed up with giving my power away and feeling bad about myself.

But is it really the nasty types that get ahead – in the long term?

Does being nasty, bullying, manipulating and overpowering other people really help to win friends and influence people? 

In the end, I believe this kind of behaviour does backfire on most people.

And sometimes it’s not even that they are overtly nasty, you just find it really difficult to express yourself to them.

Another Way to Build Confidence and Self Respect

Much later in my life, I discovered there was another way of interacting with these kinds of people that was a lot more effective.

It helped to build my self-respect and confidence.

And meant that these kinds of people, whilst unpleasant to deal with and to be around, didn’t get to dis-empower me.

It also meant that they wouldn’t even think of approaching me to do the menial tasks that no one else wanted to do.

This was because there was “something different” about me.

I was putting out a different message that said “don’t mess with me”.

assertiveness course to resolve conflict with people at work and in your personal life
When you are putting out a different message about who you are, other people will naturally treat you with respect
assertiveness course to resolve conflict with people at work and in your personal life

Stand Up for Yourself


In this course, we will be focusing on building a more empowered way of expressing yourself without needing to change who you are.

It will be about growing a new part of you so that you can hold your own against a wide range of challenging people, at work or in your personal life.

You will be discovering that you can get much further by being straightforward and authentic.

But you do need to know how to play the game which does not need you to resort to anything underhand.

It only requires you to make a shift within yourself.

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What you will be learning

  • About the 10 types of challenging behaviours and how to effectively relate to them.
  • About the 4 intentions that will give you vital clues as to what makes these people tick.
  • How to bring out the best behaviour in challenging people so they are more likely to view you positively
  • You will learn powerful communication exercises that will enable you to get across your message to the challenging people in your life so that they can be more open to respecting your point of view.
  • You’ll also be discovering if there’s anything you are doing that is causing them to behave towards you in a disrespectful way.
  • You will have the opportunity to work on an area of difficulty and breakthrough any blocks that are perpetuating the situation, and receive feedback from others so you can communicate more effectively in future.

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What participants have said about Stand Up for Yourself

Most of these reviews are verified on Findcourses.co.uk. Click the full review for a more detailed account of the participant’s experience of the course.

I’m not a victim of these difficult people anymore

I signed up for “ Stand Up for Yourself” because I was confronted with a challenging situation in my personal life. All my attempts to communicate in a peaceful way failed.

Claire’s course was really eye-opening. I learned so much about myself and my relation to people in all areas of my personal and professional life.

I walked out of this course feeling empowered and much more confident.

I don’t feel I’m the victim of these difficult people anymore.

Anna, Education Administrator

I’m not a victim of these difficult people anymore

I signed up for “ Stand Up for Yourself” because I was confronted with a challenging situation in my personal life.

I felt attacked, blamed and accused without any reason. I felt these people just did not listen to me or understand me and whatever I would do, they would keep blaming me. All my attempts to communicate in a peaceful way failed.

Claire’s course was really eye-opening. I learned so much about myself and my relation to people in all areas of my personal and professional life. I

It’s incredibly helpful to know what type of difficult person you’re dealing with and what really drives them, and what you can do to change your behaviour, which will, in turn, change theirs.

I walked out of this course feeling empowered and much more confident.

This is not something you can learn by reading a book: Claire’s wonderful way of working with the body, the group, the energy, as well as her intuition, clarity and creativity makes this course so great.

Even though I never had my ‘practised’ conversation in real life, the work in the course really shifted something and my attitude towards the situation changed.

I don’t feel I’m the victim of these difficult people anymore. Thank you, Claire and all the participants.

Anna, Education Administrator

I’d highly recommend this course to anyone who finds themselves replaying events with challenging people

I’ve always had trouble dealing with difficult personality types, especially at work.

I’d highly recommend this course to anyone who finds themselves replaying events with challenging people and thinking ‘I should have said this instead’.

I am still using the tools I learned in the course and I have felt a great improvement in many relationships. I’m getting better at handling difficult situations and people, asserting boundaries without feeling guilty.

Jennifer, Teacher

I’d highly recommend this course to anyone who finds themselves replaying events with challenging people

I signed up for the  Stand Up for Yourself course as I’ve always had trouble dealing with difficult personality types, especially at work.

I have done other courses with Claire and I like the safe and comfortable atmosphere she creates.

The course explored the main challenging personality types and what motivates people to behave that way. I came away understanding some of the difficult people in my life much better, as well as how my own behaviour could, at times come across as difficult.

I’d highly recommend this course to anyone who finds themselves replaying events with challenging people and thinking ‘I should have said this instead’.

I am still using the tools I learned in the course and I have felt a great improvement in many relationships.

I’m getting better at handling difficult situations and people, asserting boundaries without feeling guilty.

Most importantly I had a lot of fun and always looked forward to the session every week.

Jennifer, Teacher

I now feel bolder and more courageous facing people with authority

Amazing insight into the various personalities people have.

Also seeing the intent that drives people’s difficult behaviour and how to deal with it has made it much easier for me to relate to such people.

I now feel bolder, more courageous and slightly less insecure facing people with authority.

Ida, Health Practitioner

I now feel bolder and more courageous facing people with authority

Amazing insight into the various personalities people have.

Also seeing the intent that drives people’s difficult behaviour and how to deal with it has made it much easier for me to relate to such people.

What I learned too is that I am also at times a difficult person.

The biggest shift for me is realizing that the quality of the relationship I have with someone is my responsibility, so really I have to take ownership.

I now feel bolder, more courageous and slightly less insecure facing people with authority.

Ida, Health Practitioner

Helped me to stop feeling intimidated by overbearing people

I have done several of Claire’s courses over the last few years, starting with Finding Your Voice”. So when Claire ran “ Stand Up for Yourself” I was very keen to join.

Being able to think about effective ways of responding, without being “on the spot” in a real situation, and to try different approaches was extremely valuable.

It has given me lots of food for thought and helped me to not feel intimidated by the overbearing people I encounter in my work.

Mary O’Donnell, Engineer

Helped me to stop feeling intimidated by overbearing people

I have done several of Claire’s courses over the last few years, starting with “Finding Your Voice”.

Part of my reason for going on “Finding Your Voice” was to start feeling more confident when I deal with people that are very different to me or challenging in some way.

I had a big shift in my inner confidence from that course, so when Claire ran “ Stand Up for Yourself” I was very keen to join.

It was really useful to understand the different types of difficult people, their motivations, the behaviours that they can employ, and how I react to them.

Being able to think about effective ways of responding, without being “on the spot” in a real situation, and to try different approaches was extremely valuable.

It has given me lots of food for thought and helped me to not feel intimidated by the overbearing people I encounter in my work.

I also learned a great deal from the experiences of others on the course and the types of difficult people they encounter.

And it was lots of fun!

Mary O’Donnell, Engineer

The course is limited to twelve people

This means that you will build up a strong level of trust with a small group of people who are 100% in support of you making a significant shift in your communication.This makes the course a very safe place to explore any area where you are stuck. And you will also be able to work at an individual level. Then, watch the way you communicate transform in magical and unexpected ways.

Stand Up For Yourself Details and Booking

Dates: 26th Sept – 12th Dec (Thursday evenings – 12 sessions)
Times:
7.45pm – 9.45pm
Venue: The Upper Room, 8 Greenland Street, London NW1 0ND
Tubes: Camden Town
How to find the venue

Cost
If you are paying for yourself: £375 (Early Bird) or £395 which can be paid in instalments.
If your employer is paying for you: From £420 (see booking page)

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Booking your place

There are limited spaces in the course so book as soon as possible. You can book online through our booking system above.

Or, get in touch through the enquiry form below to express interest in the course.

You are welcome to book an informal consultation on the phone if you’re not sure if this is the right course for you.

For your interest, this article will give you a taste of what we will be covering on the course.

Is it the Nasty People who get ahead?
Please note

We run this course once a year, alternating with other advanced courses. See our calendar for planned dates of future courses or – PLEASE ENQUIRE.

The No Moves Money-Back Guarantee

We don’t want you to waste your money. That is why we offer a 100% money-back guarantee if this is your first Sunflower Effect Course®.

There is a very high success rate from this course.

However, if this is your first course, and you have gained nothing from the course, we will refund you money in total (less a small admin fee if you have paid by card). See our full terms and conditions.

Booking Enquiry

All information you give here is strictly confidential and will not be divulged to a third party for any reason.

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Before you book, if you are new to the Sunflower Effect Courses

Please be aware, that this course is designed as a follow-on for people who have participated in my other courses.

But don’t let this stop you from booking.

However, be aware that the course also uses drama as a way of accessing more empowered parts of yourself. We also will be playing out scenarios of challenging people. This will mean stepping into the shoes of different kinds of challenging people on behalf of other people on the course.

If you feel the drama might be a significant barrier for you, either participate in one of my other courses first or the Express Yourself Workshop.

We would also recommend participating in the Express Yourself Workshop in combination with this course, as the drama we use in the Sunflower Effect is unique and it will increase the results you receive.

Or set up a time to speak to me and we can discuss whether the course will work for you.

When booking for this course, if you are new to me, please indicate any previous experience that you consider relevant.

If you have other questions, please check out the support section or send your question to me through the form below and I will answer as fully as possible.

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