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Advanced Course: Stand Up For Yourself

 Holding your own with the challenging people in your life.
Next course starts September 30th 2020

Are challenging people getting in the way of your happiness, well-being and success?

You may find them at work, in social situations, you may live them or they may be members of your family?

Even worse when you see them getting away with things; getting their way even though there is no sense to it; getting advantages over everyone else; and in many cases being rewarded for their abusive behaviour with promotion and other advantages!

You probably would never want to behave the way they do. You don’t have it in you or you just couldn’t live with yourself if you behaved like that.

Maybe your attempts to confront them have failed and you’ve ended up with egg on your face, with them having more opportunity to have a “dig” at you.

As a result, you may have come to the conclusion that it’s the nasty people that get ahead, and someone like you just has to put up with this behaviour from others.

Confidence course on how to deal with difficult people at work and in your personal lifeThis is what I used to believe.

I saw these people achieving things that I couldn’t, and I gave up any hope that I could excel in this kind of way. But I was fed up with them undermining me, walking all over me, taking advantage of me, manipulating me, dis-empowering me and generally dominating me.

And I was also fed up with feeling angry with myself for giving my power away to them, failing to be assertive once again and for losing my own self-respect. It wasn’t doing anything for my confidence.

But is it really the nasty types that get ahead – in the long term?

Does being nasty, bullying, manipulating and overpowering other people really help to win friends and influence people?  In the end, I believe this kind of behaviour does back-fire on most people.

Another Way to Build Confidence and Self Respect

Much later in my life I discovered there was another way of interacting with these kinds of people that were a lot more effective – and helped to build my self-respect and confidence – and meant that these kinds of people whilst unpleasant to deal with and be around, didn’t get to dis-empower me.

It also meant that they wouldn’t even think of approaching me to do the menial tasks that no one else wanted to do.

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Dealing with Challenging People
In this course, we will be addressing the area of how to hold your own against a wide range of challenging people, at work or in your personal life.

You will be discovering that you can get much further by being straightforward and authentic.

But you do need to know how to play the game which does not need you to resort to anything underhand. But it does require you to make a shift within yourself.

  • You’ll also be discovering if there’s anything you are doing that is causing them to behave towards you in a disrespectful way.
  • You will learn powerful communication and drama exercises that will enable you to get across your message to the challenging people in your life so that they can be more open to respecting your point of view.
  • You will have the opportunity to work on an area of difficulty and breakthrough any blocks that are perpetuating the situation, and receive feedback from others so you can communicate more effectively in future.

This 12-week course is aimed at people who have participated in previous Making Moves courses since we will be working through a dramatic process. Therefore I prefer you to have participated in at least one of my courses or workshops before you sign up for this one. If you have some drama experience, scroll below to contact me about your individual case.

I look forward to supporting you in making a transformation in this area of your communication.

What participants have said about Stand Up For Yourself:

I signed up for “ Stand Up for Yourself” because I was confronted with a challenging situation in my personal life. I felt attacked, blamed and accused without any reason. I felt these people just did not listen to me or understand me and whatever I would do, they would keep blaming me. All my attempts to communicate in a peaceful way failed.

Claire’s course was really eye-opening. I learned so much about myself and my relation to people in all areas of my personal and professional life. It’s incredibly helpful to know what type of difficult person you’re dealing with and what really drives them, and what you can do to change your behaviour, which will, in turn, change theirs. I walked out of this course feeling empowered and much more confident.

This is not something you can learn by reading a book: Claire’s wonderful way of working with the body, the group, the energy, as well as her intuition, clarity and creativity makes this course so great. Even though I never had my ‘practised’ conversation in real life, the work in the course really shifted something and my attitude towards the situation changed. I don’t feel I’m the victim of these difficult people anymore. Thank you, Claire and all the participants.
Anna, Education Administrator

Amazing insight into the various personalities people have. Also seeing the intent that drives people’s difficult behaviour and how to deal with it has made it much easier for me to relate to such people. What I learned too is that I am also at times a difficult person. The biggest shift for me is realizing that the quality of the relationship I have with someone is my responsibility, so really I have to take ownership. I now feel bolder, more courageous and slightly less insecure facing people with authority.
Ida, Health practitioner

I signed up to the  Stand Up for Yourself course as I’ve always had trouble dealing with difficult personality types, especially at work. I have done other courses with Claire and I like the safe and comfortable atmosphere she creates. The course explored the main challenging personality types and what motivates people to behave that way. I came away understanding some of the difficult people in my life much better as well as how my own behaviour could at times come across as difficult.

I’d highly recommend this course to anyone who finds themselves replaying events with challenging people and thinking ‘I should have said this instead’. I am still using the tools I learnt in the course and I have felt a great improvement in many relationships. I’m getting better at handling difficult situations and people, asserting boundaries without feeling guilty. Most importantly I had a lot of fun and always looked forward to the session every week. 
Jennifer, teacher  V

I have done several of Claire’s courses over the last few years, starting with “Finding Your Voice”. Part of my reason for going on “Finding Your Voice” was to start feeling more confident when I deal with people that are very different to me or challenging in some way. I had a big shift in my inner confidence from that course, so when Claire ran “ Stand Up for Yourself” I was very keen to join.

It was really useful to understand the different types of difficult people, their motivations, the behaviours that they can employ, and how I react to them. Being able to think about effective ways of responding, without being “on the spot” in a real situation, and to try different approaches was extremely valuable. It has given me lots of food for thought and helped me to not feel intimidated by the overbearing people I encounter in my work. I also learned a great deal from the experiences of others on the course and the types of difficult people they encounter. And it was lots of fun! 
Mary O’Donnell, engineer

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THE DETAILS

STAND UP FOR YOURSELF COURSE
Dates:
30th Sept – 16th Dec 2020
Times: 6.00pm-7.30pm
Venue: Magdalen Centre, Euston NW1 IBN
Cost: £330 which can be paid in instalments. £315 full payment discount

Online Booking – Stand Up for Yourself

My regular courses  will resume in September. In order to protect all participants from COVID 19, we will be practising social distancing and recommend the wearing of masks during expressive activities.

Limited spaces so you are advised to book as soon as possible. Please note: it is fine to miss one or two sessions and still get enormous value from the course.

Or to pay by other means please fill in this booking form and we’ll be in touch with you.

BOOKING A TELEPHONE CONSULTATION

You are welcome to book an informal consultation on the phone if you’re not sure this is the right course for you. Or send us an email below.

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How to find the Magdalen Centre (next to St Mary’s Church), Euston

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Want to know what’s coming up soon?

My regular courses will return in September (with COVID 19 safeguards).

Find out what its like to attend a Sunflower Effect  Course by joining the next  Livestream Introductory Evening  on 21st July 7.30-9.30.

A great way to get a taste of what to expect before joining one of my courses.

Or join the next live session on September 2nd.

If you’re feeling ready to take the plunge and book for one of my courses – here’s a bit of useful info as to where to get started:

The Breakthrough Group is the first step for many people – particularly if you feel shy, self-conscious or experience social anxiety. I’ve seen some miraculous transformations in my 20 years of running this course.

My next courses next start:
Wed 23rd Sept @ 7.45pm  and Tues 29th Sept   @5.30pm

Or, if speaking up in groups, being heard, or any kind of public speaking is your challenge, then the  Finding Your Voice course is a good place to start. Particularly if anxiety or nerves are an issue. I’ve had people with very severe symptoms including panic attacks, overcome these issues with relative ease.

My next courses start:
Thurs 24th Sept@ 7.45pm  and 1st Oct @5.30pm

“I don’t know what to say” improvisation for social confidencei s great for people with average confidence who experience some form of social anxiety or awkwardness but find themselves stumped with knowing what to say. Working through improvisation and will transform your verbal confidence and social skills.

Next course starts Tuesday 22nd Sept 7.45-9.45pm

You can book online for all my courses and events.

If you’re not sure which course is right for you, book a telephone appointment with me or get in touch by email

I look forward to hearing from you

Best, Claire