Holding your own with the challenging people in your life
Next course starts January 19th 2023
Are challenging people getting in the way of your happiness, well-being and success?
You may find them at work, in social situations, you may live them or they may be members of your family?
Even worse when you see them getting away with things; getting their way even though there is no sense to it; getting advantages over everyone else; and in many cases being rewarded for their abusive behaviour with promotion and other advantages!
You’d never behave the way they do. You don’t have it in you, or you just couldn’t live with yourself if you behaved like that.
Maybe your attempts to confront them have failed and you’ve ended up with egg on your face, with them having more opportunity to get the better of you.
And sometimes it’s not even that they are overtly nasty, you just find it really difficult to express yourself to them.
As a result, you may have come to the conclusion that it’s the unpleasant people that get ahead, and someone like you just has to put up with this behaviour from others.
This is what I used to believe.
I saw these people achieving things that I couldn’t, and I gave up any hope that I could excel in this kind of way. But I was fed up with them undermining me, walking all over me, taking advantage of me, manipulating me, dis-empowering me and generally dominating me.
And I was also fed up with feeling angry with myself for giving my power away to them, failing to be assertive once again and for losing my own self-respect. It wasn’t doing anything for my confidence.
But is it really the nasty types that get ahead – in the long term?
Does being nasty, bullying, manipulating and overpowering other people really help to win friends and influence people? In the end, I believe this kind of behaviour does back-fire on most people.
Another Way to Build Confidence and Self Respect
Much later in my life I discovered there was another way of interacting with these kinds of people that were a lot more effective – and helped to build my self-respect and confidence – and meant that these kinds of people whilst unpleasant to deal with and be around, didn’t get to dis-empower me.
It also meant that they wouldn’t even think of approaching me to do the menial tasks that no one else wanted to do. Because there was “something different” about me.
Communicating with Challenging People
In this course, we will be focusing on building a more empowered way of expressing yourself without needing to change who you are. It will be about growing a new part of you so that you can hold your own against a wide range of challenging people, at work or in your personal life.
You will be discovering that you can get much further by being straightforward and authentic.
But you do need to know how to play the game which does not need you to resort to anything underhand. But it does require you to make a shift within yourself.
- You’ll also be discovering if there’s anything you are doing that is causing them to behave towards you in a disrespectful way.
- You will learn powerful communication and drama exercises that will enable you to get across your message to the challenging people in your life so that they can be more open to respecting your point of view.
- You will have the opportunity to work on an area of difficulty and breakthrough any blocks that are perpetuating the situation, and receive feedback from others so you can communicate more effectively in future.
This 12-week course is aimed at people who have participated in previous Making Moves courses since we will be working through a dramatic process. Therefore I prefer you to have participated in at least one of my courses or workshops before you sign up for this one. If you have some drama experience, scroll below to contact me about your individual case.
I look forward to supporting you in making a transformation in this area of your communication.
What participants have said about Stand Up For Yourself:
I signed up for “ Stand Up for Yourself” because I was confronted with a challenging situation in my personal life. I felt attacked, blamed and accused without any reason. I felt these people just did not listen to me or understand me and whatever I would do, they would keep blaming me. All my attempts to communicate in a peaceful way failed.
Claire’s course was really eye-opening. I learned so much about myself and my relation to people in all areas of my personal and professional life. It’s incredibly helpful to know what type of difficult person you’re dealing with and what really drives them, and what you can do to change your behaviour, which will, in turn, change theirs. I walked out of this course feeling empowered and much more confident.
This is not something you can learn by reading a book: Claire’s wonderful way of working with the body, the group, the energy, as well as her intuition, clarity and creativity makes this course so great. Even though I never had my ‘practised’ conversation in real life, the work in the course really shifted something and my attitude towards the situation changed. I don’t feel I’m the victim of these difficult people anymore. Thank you, Claire and all the participants.
Anna, Education Administrator
Amazing insight into the various personalities people have. Also seeing the intent that drives people’s difficult behaviour and how to deal with it has made it much easier for me to relate to such people. What I learned too is that I am also at times a difficult person. The biggest shift for me is realizing that the quality of the relationship I have with someone is my responsibility, so really I have to take ownership. I now feel bolder, more courageous and slightly less insecure facing people with authority.
Ida, Health practitioner
I signed up to the Stand Up for Yourself course as I’ve always had trouble dealing with difficult personality types, especially at work. I have done other courses with Claire and I like the safe and comfortable atmosphere she creates. The course explored the main challenging personality types and what motivates people to behave that way. I came away understanding some of the difficult people in my life much better as well as how my own behaviour could at times come across as difficult.
I’d highly recommend this course to anyone who finds themselves replaying events with challenging people and thinking ‘I should have said this instead’. I am still using the tools I learnt in the course and I have felt a great improvement in many relationships. I’m getting better at handling difficult situations and people, asserting boundaries without feeling guilty. Most importantly I had a lot of fun and always looked forward to the session every week.
Jennifer, teacher V
I have done several of Claire’s courses over the last few years, starting with “Finding Your Voice”. Part of my reason for going on “Finding Your Voice” was to start feeling more confident when I deal with people that are very different to me or challenging in some way. I had a big shift in my inner confidence from that course, so when Claire ran “ Stand Up for Yourself” I was very keen to join.
It was really useful to understand the different types of difficult people, their motivations, the behaviours that they can employ, and how I react to them. Being able to think about effective ways of responding, without being “on the spot” in a real situation, and to try different approaches was extremely valuable. It has given me lots of food for thought and helped me to not feel intimidated by the overbearing people I encounter in my work. I also learned a great deal from the experiences of others on the course and the types of difficult people they encounter. And it was lots of fun!
Mary O’Donnell, engineer
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January 2023 Course
STAND UP FOR YOURSELF COURSE
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