How do I overcome self consciousness?

It is wretched feeling self-conscious. I know because I felt like that myself for many years.

Social Anxiety is experienced by many people, and it is usually fuelled by self-consciousness.

It is that experience of feeling that the world is pointing a very powerful camera at you and noticing everything you say and do. There is an ongoing commentary going on in your head about what that camera is saying and thinking about you – and it feels very real.

Even though there may be no evidence out there in the world that other people are saying and thinking these things, there is a part of you, your Critical Voice, which absolutely believes that this is happening.  Your Critical Voice will go to extraordinary lengths to protect you from exposure and ridicule.

It does this, by keeping you in a “straight-jacket”, and drawing very strict lines around what it has decided is OK-behaviour and what is not-OK-behaviour. Whenever you cross the line into what it conceives as NOT OK – then you will experience acute self-consciousness. This may take the form of blushing, embarrassment, sweating or other unsettling symptoms – which will draw even more attention to your self-consciousness.

So how do you get out of this?

How do you stop feeling self-conscious when every cell in your body is wired up to being self-conscious?

It can be achieved much easier than you think. I did it and I did it through drama that in reality was going to make me feel exceedingly self-conscious.  It was uncomfortable to begin with, however when I went through that barrier, it opened something up in me.  I didn’t experience exposure and riducle or any of the things my Critical Voice told me was going to happen, so I began to relax.

After a while I started feeling an awful lot less self consciousness. By persisting on this path, the self consciousness completely went away.


Without this self-consciousness, I was free to be myself and my confidence began to grow.

As a result, I have achieved things that would simply been impossible if I hadn’t put my shyness and self-consciousness right behind me.

Learn more about my story.

It was this experience that inspired me to start up Making Moves – and to create courses that would put together all I had learned in a format that would enable people to break through self consciousness  – and would save them a lot of the hard learning experiences that I went through

I can show you how to break out of your shell effortlessly and easily, resolve issues that have been undermining your well-being  for years – whilst at the same having an enormous amount of fun. Because the fact is that when you move from self consciousness to self awareness, you have a very powerful tool that will serve you for many years to come – and will enable you to break through almost any obstacle in your path.

How to get started

If you haven’t yet signed up for the  free chapters from my book From Wallflower to Sunflower I suggest you start there. You get it for free if you subscribe to the Making Moves Newsletter. Reading the chapters  is a very good way to gain more understanding of why you are in your shell and what it will take to get you out of it. Many participants find very helpful before participating in one of my courses. I will also keep you posted on the courses I’m offering.

Confidence Building Courses for Overcoming Self-Consciousness

I offer a wide range of Confidence Building Courses aimed at beginners for different levels and abilities.

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Want to know what’s coming up soon?

My regular courses will return in September (with COVID 19 safeguards).

Find out what its like to attend a Sunflower Effect  Course by joining the next  Livestream Introductory Evening  on 21st July 7.30-9.30.

A great way to get a taste of what to expect before joining one of my courses.

Or join the next live session on September 2nd.

If you’re feeling ready to take the plunge and book for one of my courses – here’s a bit of useful info as to where to get started:

The Breakthrough Group is the first step for many people – particularly if you feel shy, self-conscious or experience social anxiety. I’ve seen some miraculous transformations in my 20 years of running this course.

My next courses next start:
Wed 23rd Sept @ 7.45pm  and Tues 29th Sept   @5.30pm

Or, if speaking up in groups, being heard, or any kind of public speaking is your challenge, then the  Finding Your Voice course is a good place to start. Particularly if anxiety or nerves are an issue. I’ve had people with very severe symptoms including panic attacks, overcome these issues with relative ease.

My next courses start:
Thurs 24th Sept@ 7.45pm  and 1st Oct @5.30pm

“I don’t know what to say” improvisation for social confidencei s great for people with average confidence who experience some form of social anxiety or awkwardness but find themselves stumped with knowing what to say. Working through improvisation and will transform your verbal confidence and social skills.

Next course starts Tuesday 22nd Sept 7.45-9.45pm

You can book online for all my courses and events.

If you’re not sure which course is right for you, book a telephone appointment with me or get in touch by email

I look forward to hearing from you

Best, Claire