Do you feel like this image – as if half of you is not there?
(If you can’t see this image it is of a man whose face and body is partially invisible).
This is the experience of many people. And then you wonder why you feel uninspired, deadened and not able to enjoy your life with an overriding sense that life is passing you by.
And it is true, life is passing you by.
Who wouldn’t feel unhappy if half of them was not there?
The Disappearing Creative Side
What has this to do with creativity? Everything.
The part of you that is invisible in the photograph is your creative side – even if you don’t believe you’re creative. And if you don’t nurture or express your creativity, like any muscle if you don’t use it – it will waste away.
Your creativity will die. And when it dies, you will feel the impact of it…and it will begin to affect your life. What used to make you feel vital and alive no longer does any more.
And as you see in the photograph above, as the creative side withers more and more of you disappears.
This is often mistaken for depression, stress, fatigue, being run down, and the feeling “I don’t know what to do with my life”. Life becomes a struggle, full of routine and boredom.
The creative side, that you thought was not that important, something you’d resurrect one day when you have the time, turns out to be absolutely vital to your survival.
If you neglect your creativity, you neglect one of the most important parts of yourself. Because creativity is not limited to so-called creative pursuits – such as art, music, dance or drama.
It is the essence of who you are.
Even the most ruthless scientific field relies on creativity for its biggest breakthroughs. Great discoveries were made often through hunches and intuition. Not through rational deduction.
I’m Not Creative
I can’t tell you how many times I have heard someone tell me categorically that they are not creative. And then by the end of the session, I can see the seeds of creativity in them. The creativity they don’t see or believe they have.
Gradually and with encouragement, more of this creativity starts coming forward. And they begin to surprise even themselves. Even if their rational mind believes “they’re too old, they don’t have what it takes, they’re a hopeless case”. They begin feeling vital and alive again.
I love this quote by Joseph Chilton Pearce: “To live a creative life we must lose our fear of being wrong.”
Yes, he is absolutely right. You can’t even begin to be creative if you are attached to being or “doing things right”. Even the greatest artists will tell you that. Rodin, like most sculptors, as prolific as he was, needed to constantly clear out the rubble of sculptures that he had thrown out. This rubble was a huge mound of the failed and unfinished sculptures which far exceeded his output.
Many people have the idea that they will sit down and immediately create a wonderful work, that others will admire.
I can remember doing this myself. As a result, absolutely nothing creative came out of me. This was in spite of the fact that I had enormous untapped creative potential in me.
I soon became very discouraged and gave up any idea of being creative. Thus I became more and more miserable.
It didn’t help that my father discovered some of my creative efforts and then mocked me mercilessly for them. No wonder I felt crushed and was afraid of being creative.
This would have persisted, but as luck would have it, I found another way.
You Were Trained to be Uncreative
If you have done the very same thing as I did, please don’t beat yourself about this. The fact is that you have been trained from a very young age to believe this is what creativity is – and to be critical and judgmental of your abilities. So it’s hardly surprising that you have these beliefs.
The adults around you, who were motivated by their own fears and disappointments, may have told you “You’re not creative. Stick at what you’re good at.” They wanted to protect you from disappointment.
This is because in our world the rational mind is worshiped as the only way. And the intuitive/creative mind is regarded with suspicion. It is even rather feared.
Creative Self Indulgence
Unless you grew up during a time when creativity was actively encouraged. When everything you did was creative – even quite objectionable behaviour. “Oh, he/she is just being creative!” the adults around cried out in delight.
And then you woke up with a jolt that your so-called creativity was complete self-indulgence. This was creativity without boundaries, without any form. Creativity that was a complete mess.
No wonder we’re so confused about what creativity is.
It is no wonder we fear our creative side – because it can make us look completely ridiculous.
It’s a horrid fact that the more you fear looking ridiculous, the more you will look ridiculous.
How to be Creative Even if You Think You’re Not
So if you’re reading this and you feel the urge to be creative but don’t know quite how to start exercising that muscle. Because any muscle that hasn’t been used is going to be flabby. Then start with this.
Start facing your fear of being wrong. Or to put it another way, let go your the need to “do it right”.
Be prepared to make mistakes.
If you want to take this a step further – make a deliberate mistake. Try to do something wrong and see just how hard it is. See what happens when you attempt to make a deliberate mistake.
Practice with simple things – like wearing odd socks, or an article of clothing inside out. This too is how fashion evolves. At one time who would have believed that inside-out clothes would be fashionable or torn jeans.
It is so strong in us to “do it right”. It is so insidious – but when you truly subvert this, then your true creativity has a chance to emerge.
Exercising Your Creative Muscle
The people in my I Don’t Know What to Say improvisation course are learning this. They are experiencing moments when their rational mind is driving them. And they know when they do this – they feel self-conscious, awkward and think they are “not doing very well”. Thus the rational mind goes into overdrive, as adrenaline is pumping through their veins, trying to work out what to do. This can feel very terrifying.
And then they remember to move into their other brain – the right brain, the creative brain – instead of focusing on themselves and “how badly they’re doing it”, they are focusing on their partner and suddenly something surprising starts to come out of them.
It registers in them immediately as pleasure, of feeling as if they’re riding a wave – and they don’t know how long they’re going to be on that wave, but the more they relax into it, the longer they can stay on the wave and more in tune they feel with their partner and with the creative spirit within them.
It doesn’t matter in the least that this MAY be only a fleeting experience – and it may come and go. But as they practice this muscle, it will get stronger. And gradually it will become as effortless to “ride the wave” as it is to think rationally.
True creativity is a partnership between the creative and rational brain. You are never going to get rid of your rational mind and you shouldn’t. But you don’t want it to rule the show.
But for most people, the creative brain has been so suppressed that it barely exists. It has been ridiculed, shamed and beaten out of existence.
It is like a very tender seedling. If people keep trampling on the seedling, it is never going to grow into a strong and healthy plant. It is going to die.
The reason why most people believe they’re not creative is that they’ve not developed the skill out of which their creativity can develop and grow. This is the same as the gardener tending his/her young seedlings and making sure they have the best possible chances of survival.
Tend your creative spirit and it and you will grow.
It is a well-known fact that people who are actively expressing their creativity are happier and feel more fulfilled. And it doesn’t matter what area of life you express your creativity.
If you feel a pang of jealousy that someone else is living their life in a more creative way, this is a sure sign that you’re not living your creative potential. I used to be jealous of other people who were making a success out of being creative and now some people are jealous of me.
I know that when I get jealous of other people – it means that there’s an area where I’m not expressing my creativity.
From this perspective jealousy is not bad. It is actually an opportunity for growth.
Nurturing Your Creative Spirit
How can you nurture the creative spirit that lives in you today? Take one small action. The take another one tomorrow. Keep taking those actions and before long your creative spirit will be fully alive in you.
© Claire Schrader
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