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The Christmas Party Season is coming up – maybe it’s already upon you?
This can be a painful experience for quiet, shy and introverted people.
Do you dread the office Christmas Party and having to make small talk with people you hardly know?
You don’t know quite what to say?
Do you detest all the false jollity and ra–ra putting you in an uncomfortable situation with your work colleagues?
Or, maybe it’s the thought of spending time with family or being alone
A few years ago, I created a Facebook Live on How to Survive the Christmas Season.
There are actually two of them. One is 25 minutes long and discusses how to meet the challenges of Christmas parties in general, but it is also good to listen to about any other kind of party, networking event, or social gathering.
The second one—a PS when Facebook logged me out… is about five minutes long, and in it, I talk about being alone at Christmas.
Both are a bit rough and ready and need some editing.
I do hope you find these two Lives helpful.
A Few Tips
Remember, you’re not alone. Many people feel the same way about the Office Christmas Party.
So, take a deep breath and remember all the positive things about yourself so you can face the event with confidence. Breathing can really help to reduce anxiety.
- Remember to Smile. However uncomfortable you may feel, this is often not noticed by others. However, smiling can make you more approachable. If you feel brave enough to strike up a conversation with a new person, a smile will help.
- Visualise yourself having a great time: You’ll be amazed at what a difference this makes. It will put you in a more positive frame of mind.
- Lower your Expectations: Take the pressure off yourself. And give yourself a pat on the back for meeting this challenge.
- Leave when you need to: Be aware when you’ve had enough. And find a way to escape. And make sure to say goodbye to a few people.
- Seek out quieter people: Seek out those who share your desire for a quieter evening. They will be only too happy to talk to you.
- Be prepared: Prepare a few conversation starters to avoid those awkward silences.
And if you struggle with social occasions in general, do join my next I Don’t Know What to Say Course. You will feel very different at your next festive gathering.
- Probably the fastest and most effective way of overcoming the “I don’t know what to say” syndrome
- Learn how to bypass your analytic mind and to respond in the most natural way. You will be amazed at what begins to come out of your mouth without even thinking of it.
- Free yourself of inhibitions and become more spontaneous.
- Learn how to hold your own against dominant people.
It’s six months since I did the course and I’m still seeing the benefits, thank you for the whole experience. I surprise myself sometimes as to where my confidence comes from in relating to people.” Peregrine C
