Key Takeaways
- Shyness and social anxiety are learned behaviours that can be unlearned through the Sunflower Effect confidence building system.
- Dramatherapist Claire Schrader developed the Sunflower Effect Courses, proven to be the most effective way to enable quiet, shy, and introverted adults to overcome their challenges since 1997.
- The Breakthrough Group offers a safe space for participants to overcome their confidence issues over 12 weeks.
- The adapted drama based in dramatherapy used in the Sunflower Effect enables participants to overcome shyness and social anxiety by dissolving unconscious behaviour patterns that are blocking confidence.
- Sustained participation in the Sunflower Effect courses leads to long-lasting change, with a money-back guarantee if participants do not see benefits. There is an exceptional success rate for participants of all levels of confidence with follow-on courses to continue progression.
In this article, I will be sharing with you how to overcome shyness and social anxiety based on my experiences of overcoming my shyness.
In time, this led me to develop the Sunflower Effect Courses®, and I’ve been transforming the lives of quiet, shy and introverted people since 1997.
Shyness, self-consciousness and all forms of anxiety are miserable conditions that can affect the whole of your life. But they don’t need to ruin your potential to lead a happy and fulfilling life.
I spent the first part of my life experiencing shyness and social anxiety
I was acutely self-conscious and felt as if I was trapped in a box. I was living on the sidelines, watching other people participate and enjoying themselves.
I desperately wanted to get out of that box and join them. But I didn’t know how?
I got to the point when I HAD TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!
I will be sharing with you how I did it and how you can do the same.
Shyness is learned or adapted behaviour and, therefore, can be unlearned.
It is most commonly the result of painful experiences that have caused you to shut down and to retreat into your shell.
Many introverts become shy, like me, because of the social pressures that are put on them by other people. To be more social, more outgoing, more of a team player.
If you are not able to play the social game, you are simply ignored or excluded. If you’ve had a number of these experiences, you very quickly become shy.
Overcoming shyness and social anxiety is not going to happen overnight.
It needs determination and commitment to unlearn that behaviour. But it can be achieved much quicker and easier than you would think through the Sunflower Effect Courses.
Certainly a lot quicker than most other methods that do very little to dissolve your shyness.
It usually takes about 3 months for most shy and socially anxious to build a lasting confidence through the Sunflower Effect®.
One of the Sunflower Effect® 12-week courses will enable you to make a significant shift. And this can be followed up by other courses so you can continue to develop and expand your confidence.
The next important step is to choose a method that will deliver the results you seek.
What You’ll need
A safe space to break through the internal blockages that are keeping you shy and socially anxious.
The Breakthrough Group is unique and is the most effective way for shy and socially anxious people to build confidence.
Working through an adapted form of drama dissolves the psychological barriers that are keeping you stuck.
Step 1 Commitment
Commitment is a huge confidence builder. When you make a commitment and stick with it, you send a huge message to your unconscious that will lead to greater success.
Step 2 A safe space to come out of your shell
The most important condition for how to get over shyness and social anxiety is safety.
This is having a safe place in which you have permission to make mistakes and stretch out of your comfort zone.
The most important part of this is the emotional safety. The block to most shy people’s expression is not just fear of what others think of you but what you think of yourself.
If you join the Breakthrough Group, my core course for overcoming shyness, you will have a safe place to express yourself and take tentative risks. You will have permission to make mistakes and to make a bit of a fool of yourself and where no one’s going to laugh at you because you’re behaving differently.
When you start, you’re going to feel pretty awkward and self-conscious. You will be supported by a committed group of people who feel in the same boat as you and who understand what it feels like to be too shy. This is what makes the difference.
Step 3 Drama is proven to be the most effective way to build confidence in shy and socially anxious people
The drama we use in Sunflower Effect Courses works in a magical way. It works in a practical way to liberate you from your inhibitions and release the unconscious blocks to enable you to change habitual behaviour patterns.
It may feel very strange at first, and it doesn’t require you to be any good at drama. It just requires you to “give it a go”.
Every week, you will have the opportunity to try out new behaviours by playing characters in a simple story with the support of other group members.
In my book From Wallflower to Sunflower, I explain why this is so effective at breaking the old patterns of being too shy.
Do I need any drama experience?
How to Overcome Shyness and Social Anxiety
I recommend the Breakthrough Group, which is specifically designed for shy, self-conscious and anxious people. It’s a safe environment where you can gradually come out of your shell and experiment with new behaviours.
Most people come into this course absolutely frozen with fear, and by the end of the course, have completely put shyness behind them. No longer the “wallflower on the dance floor”.
I also offer a 100% money-back guarantee if you don’t get anything out of the course.
If you are extremely shy or anxious, your shyness is there for a good reason – and it’s not going to shift overnight.
You’ll probably need at least two courses before you start seeing significant changes. This is important. Sustained change over a period of time is what leads to long-lasting and, in time, permanent change.
It takes courage and commitment to overcome the discomfort, but that is what is needed. – and with the support of other people all rooting for you.
Basically, the more Sunflower Effect Courses you do, the quicker you will learn new skills and banish the old habit of being too shy.
Set up a time to speak to me
If you’re not sure if Breakthrough is right for you, you can set up a time to speak to me. It’s free. I can then get more of a sense of what is going to be the best course for you.
Not Quite Ready For a Course?
Join an Introductory Evening
This will give you a taste of what to expect if you join the Breakthrough Group.
Many people choose to do this as their first step and are surprised by what they are able to achieve in a short session. And just how supportive other people are, in a warm, welcoming atmosphere.
Book an Individual Session
For some people coming into a group is too big a step. In which case a series of individual sessions will help to prepare you. Many people also supplement the course with some individual sessions. Usually, only one session is needed
Dissolving the psychological blocks to your shyness is what is going to make the difference
Buy the book: From Wallflower to Sunflower
Reading the book will enable you to get more out of the Breakthrough Group because you will understand more about how the Sunflower Effect works.
Discover your magic power to break old habits and create new patterns of confident behaviour.
Still hesitating?
I feel for you. I was in that place many years ago.
Perhaps hesitating has become a bit of a habit? Retreating into your shell was how you survived
So you may want to ask yourself: What is your shyness or your lack of confidence costing you?
Do you need more information?
Want to know what the other people are like? Or curious about how I banished shyness forever. Or have another question?
But if you’ve landed on this page, I do suggest you do something?
You may like to email me and tell me a little bit about yourself and what you are struggling with?
I look forward to supporting you on your journey out of shyness. It will make an enormous difference to your life. See participants’ stories. And save yourself years of pain and disappointment.
Claire Schrader
